Brian: He who hesitates, doesn't get laid. (QAF Episode 406)
So after talking with E3 about this I mentioned it to Catpants and Babs and I had to write about it.
Expiration dates.
I believe that people have expiration dates. Okay yes, we have an inevidable expiration date, but in pre-relationships. Confused? Okay here goes...
So, say you are out or around and you meet someone. You start to click with them, even if it's on the sub conscious level. There starts an expiration process. Depending on how you play your cards, you can extend the date. Much like putting the milk in the fridge to keep it longer than keeping it out on the counter, well duh. Or wrapping your bread so it doesn't get hard (okay mind out of the gutters people).
So, here is the 411(I know I am so hip for last year), you have a set amount of time with someone before they loose interest, or you loose interest. Within this time period there are millions of factors...are they single or with someone? do you see them regularly or sparingly? what are their interests? where are they going?
These are just veriables in evaluating expiration dates. You tune into warning signs on how close you are getting to it, you smell the milk, squeeze the fruit, and see the brown (NOTE: these are only a few major variables to the equation, there are many more factors as well).
Smelling the Milk:
You begin to notice the ebb and flow of your happiness together. Once you learn how much time to spend together and how much to spend apart, you can control more the ultimite date.
Squeezing the Fruit:
You begin to notice certain affection coming your way. Controlling the "god" status is important in this stage. Both of you must figure out how not to put the other on a pedistal. Stop thinking of people as Ideas and your time will increase.
See the Brown:
You begin to listen to the words of your friends around you. If they seem secretive to you about the "crush" you are in the green light. When they begin to talk about both of your attraction and you haven't hooked up in someway, then red lights all over.
The most important thing in all of this is communication. Timing, is always of the essence, you have to wait till the time is right to talk to them about this. The milk will sour immediately when timing is off, and will sour immediately. This is the hardest. If you pop the question too soon, it will be out of nowhere and you will not get anywhere. If you wait to late, your expiration will blow up. If either of these happens you loose any chance of a relationship rather love or friendship.
There is an adendum to this. Like all good things, the end is not the end. We are cyclic in nature. There is a time to be reborn and get a new expiration date or to "repair" the relationship to that of friendship. It takes time, tears and talking, but can be achieved. Nothing undone is not then redoable, it just takes longer. You need to go back and take the time to make your senses more keen.
To listen, kinesthetically, emotionally and audiably to them. This is not hard and steadfast a method. It is one that includes many more honing of the senses and preceptors to accomplish. But inevitably we know, to quote Billy Shakes, in our heart of hearts, when that time expires and when it can be rejuvinated.
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